If you plan to participate in video iChats over the holidays here are some tips that will make the whole thing go more smoothly.
1. If the folks you are talking seem unwilling to make eye contact, it’s not because they don’t want to. They are looking at you, on the screen, rather than at the camera. You probably are doing the same thing.
2. Only the person who starts the call can add more people. Click the + button in the chat window, or drag a buddy’s name into the window.
3. If you don’t want to see yourself in the picture during a video chat choose Video > Hide Local Video.
4. You can quickly access your Buddy List by pressing ⌘1